The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.
~ Psalm 34:18
When I was a young mother, I went through a sudden, unexpected divorce. I know the difficulty and struggles of separation and divorce. So, I offer a low-cost divorce support group as a ministry for all who are wanting to achieve wholeness again as a single person. Note: This is a psychoeducational support group and NOT a therapy group. Below is a description of this special ministry.
No one ever expects to get divorced when they get married.
Especially if you were married as a Catholic or as a Christian in church, you took that extra step as a way of solidifying your marriage in the eyes of God and the larger Christian community.
You took the solemn vow of marriage before God, family and friends because you saw marriage as a commitment – a lifelong commitment that you intended to keep.
Whether you were married little or long – whether you never saw the divorce coming or you are the one who initiated it – there is nothing easy or straightforward about the divorce process.
What so many people fail to recognize is the interwovenness of marriage.
Simply stated, “I” becomes woven into “We” through the years of being married together.
You enter into marriage as “I” – but you create another whole entity and identity along the way called “We”.
Of course, you maintain your individual “I” as well.
Still, in divorce, it is painful and hard to separate the “we”.
We work hard to unravel the question: Who am “I” without the “we”?
Divorce impacts are felt beyond the immediate family.
There is the community, the extended family, friends, school, church, and your own precious children.
Divorce ripples from all of these extended systems are felt and must be contended with.
Of all of these, most important are the children of divorce.
The marital relationship our children are born into is the only family they know.
Now as you separate out your marital relationship through divorce, emphasis must be placed on ways to best take care of your children.
How do you provide the same sense of oneness of family life for your children – while living apart?
Above all, how do you keep your grievances about and toward each other, away from your children?
These are not easy issues. Especially in the midst of great emotional turmoil and pain, you may feel lost and unsure how to move forward.
You may be guided by well-intentioned family and friends in ways that are not cohesive for your soul.
Because you chose to become married in the eyes of God as a sign of your faith, I believe that you want to move forward through divorce in the best ways possible with God’s guidance and grace.
Ministry for separated and divorced is a separation and divorce support group for those grieving the loss of their marriage through the transition into divorce. For those who have children, Ministry for separated and divorced includes a focus on single parenting as well.
Ministry for Separated and Divorced support group will meet each week for eight weeks. Attendees are requested to commit to the full eight weeks to ensure continuity for each group member.
This eight-week format follows a program that touches on all the most important aspects of divorce.
Come as you are, which might include hopeful, broken, discouraged, disappointed, angry, relieved – you name it!
Together with others, you will find your way forward into the next stages of life. With or without children, you will be positioned to move forward with a clearer sense of who you are, and where you want to go.
For further information, please contact me.
"For I know the plans I have for you" declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
~ Jeremiah 29:11